Who is the center of your universe. Who is important to you?
My universe starts with my husband and children, extends to family, neighbors, and friends, groups that support and define me, meaningful volunteer work, and people with whom I interact on a regular basis or keep in touch with by mail or the Net.
My life would be affected were I to lose or pull away from any of them because my “universe” is what makes up my life. And my life is good.
When I see the shifting, ambivalent universe of the women and children at the shelter, I understand how different life can be when one’s universe mainly hits back and pushes you inward instead of being supportive and pushing you outward.
If the center of your universe has claimed that spot because he controls your every move and eventually even your thoughts, you must put most of your attention on that center. You can’t pull away from it or you will be in danger. You can’t enlarge your universe except perhaps to your children if most of your energy and planning is wrapped up in a person who makes a cocoon of your life.
Getting out of that cocoon means slowly unraveling the restricting threads that hold you prisoner. It isn’t impossible but it sure isn’t easy.
If you know or suspect someone you know is being battered emotionally or physically, be there for them.
Expand your universe. You will be glad you did.