Our Christmas dinners have changed over the years. First it was usually ham, then it was lasagna so it could be done ahead. Now my grown kids want beef--their own organic beef bought as a 1/2 cow from a local farmer.
What's the big deal? Early on, it was my decision, based on how much time I had to cook for Christmas. Now it's a family decision. It's not dictated by a partner who needs to control every single thing to do with my house and family. There are no games--"I'll let you know." Or, "I'll give you a list--see if I forgot anything." "Or, "You give me a list and we'll see."
Most batterers can't let their victim make decisions and do normal things on her own. Sometimes that's good. Because God forbid she makes a mistake or displeases him. Then she's in more trouble than ever.
Who decides on Christmas dinner in your house, and why?